For Couples, Families, And More:
For Couples, Families, And More:
End Arguments, Fighting, Avoiding Issues, Nagging, & Broken Promises.
Winning Conflict is a step-by-step system to stop, de-escalate, and transform conflict into connection, understanding, healing, and solutions that make everyone's lives better.
Based on Nonviolent Communication
and Relationship Coaching techniques.
How Can We Successfully Have Difficult Conversations... If We Were Never Taught How?
Winning Conflict is a beginner-friendly, step-by-step guide and support system that empowers us to have connecting conversations about difficult and painful topics... so we can end fights, truly resolve issues, and finally heal from conflicts.
1. STOP CONFLICTS
Simple tools to stop fights, so you can prepare for productive conversations.
2. STRUCTURED TALKS
Follow the guide to slow down, hear each other, and resolve issues and conflicts.
3. SUPPORT AS NEEDED
Join the free interactive workshops, or
get personal help for more difficult topics.
Step-by-step System
To end conflicts and hear each other, most of us don't need therapy. We just need to have conversations in a way that works.
But, very few of us ever learned how to successfully have difficult conversations. Instead, we react to each other, things escalate, and we end up fighting or avoiding talking altogether.
Winning Conflict is everything you need to make having those conversations as easy and straight-forward as possible.
It does not require:
Spending years relearning how to communicate.
Memorizing unnatural sounding scripts.
Being "perfect" and never have reactions.
Forcing others to talk differently.
Just pick a topic and follow the steps.
The 330-page book has 10 chapters with steps and examples of how to talk about issues that would otherwise likely never get resolved, starting with a simple way to quickly stop most conflicts, so we have space to follow the rest of the steps.
If the other person will not actively join us, The system can be followed on our own. Or, it can be followed together, which often turns conflict into a collaborative, enjoyable experience.
There are also 3 bonus chapters to help us become aware of habits that unintentionally escalate conflict or lead to disconnection, so we can more quickly connect to each other.
Communication Deck
The optional add-on card deck helps everyone slow down and fully understand each other. It shifts difficult conversations into a fun, cooperative game for two.
The large, colour-coded, step-by-step cards summarize:
Chapter 5: Mutual Understanding
Chapter 6: Heal Relationships
Chapter 7: Solve Issues
Chapter 8: The Gift Of Interrupting ("pause cards")
Plus two sets of Feelings and Needs cards.
Free Gift: Wheel Of Life App
Log all your topics, agreements, and more.
Log For Free:
What to talk about.
Action steps to resolve issues/conflicts.
Vision and action steps for a more fulfilling life.
And more.
Optional AI Assistant Add-On:
Talk to your phone or watch and it logs everything for you.
Ask questions and get answers from the book.
Write appreciation letters using the framework.
Help Along The Path
Some topics might be too urgent or activating to talk about on our own. Or, we might get stuck on a step and need a little help getting back on track.
No worries... We're in this together.
FREE Help:
Q&A: Ask questions of us in the community.
Practice: Find practice partners in the community.
Connection: Support each other in the community.
Practice Workshops: Free weekly practice group.
More Help:
Coaching Group: Multiple support calls weekly.
One-on-one: Get help from someone trained in the method.
When You Know How To WIN Conflict...
You'll Stop:
You'll Start:
Reacting
Learn how to stop fights in their tracks and to reprogram your brain to react less and recover from reaction faster.
Defusing Conflicts
Be ready with intentional responses that help everyone come out of reaction, calm down, and actually talk.
Arguing
End arguments about who is right or wrong, and find solutions together that work for everyone.
Being Heard
Learn to share in ways others can easily hear, so they are less likely to react, and more likely to work with you.
Avoiding
Stop avoiding issues, fighting, talking over and over without progress, giving in, nagging, walking on eggshells, etc.
Solving Issues
Confidently deal with issues, heal from the pain of past actions, and resolve conflicts, once and for all.
WINNING CONFLICT: What's In The Book?
Everything You Need To Fix And Resolve Most Relationship Conflicts, For Good.
Most of us do not need therapy to deal with relationship conflicts. We just need a guide to talking about it, where everyone wins.
330
Pages
Framework, theory, examples, and sample conversations.
5-Step Framework
Just follow the steps to fix most conflicts in most relationships.
10 Main Chapters
Everything you need to know to make difficult conversations easy.
3 Bonus Chapters
Become aware of conflict patterns that escalate conflic.
Part 1 - The Winning Conflict Framework:
CHAPTER 1
Stop Conflict In Its Tracks
Stop conflict before it escalates. You can start using the first technique today to put an end to nearly any fight.
How to start conflicts on their journey to being resolved today.
CHAPTER 2
Prepare For Beneficial Talks
Discover the deep unmet needs or beliefs at the root of each conflict.
Create an intention for talking that will inspire the other person to collaborate.
CHAPTER 3
Shift Our Mental State
Discover the mindset that turns conflict into connection.
Learn to stay calm and respond intentionally when talking with people you usually react to.
CHAPTER 4
Understand Needs & Emotions
Learn what really creates our emotions and how to identify our needs.
Understand the theory behind the technique.
CHAPTER 5
Understand Each Other
Bring up topics in a way that doesn't trigger fight or flight, so your conversation isn't doomed before it starts.
Have win-win conversations, even when you disagree with each other or when they aren't following the structure.
CHAPTER 6
Heal Relationships
Do beneficial repair work to repair relationships, no matter which one of you did something the other found painful.
How to make connecting apologies without going into blame or shame.
CHAPTER 7
Solve Issues
How to think about agreements differently so you'll never have a bad, unfair, or failed agreement ever again.
How to create agreements that really work for both of you, and you both want to make work.
CHAPTER 8
The Gift Of Interrupting
Why we typically interrupt and why it leads to escalation.
How to interrupt in ways people actually appreciate.
CHAPTER 9
The Frames Conflict Lives In
Why our attempts (even with NVC) often fail to create connection during conflict and what to do about it.
How to recognize, break, and shift frames to help people come out of their conflict mindset into a connecting one.
CHAPTER 10
Winning Relationships
Why relationships still fall apart even after you have resolved the biggest conflicts and have the skills.
How to build relationship foundations that are resilient to conflict, so issues never again escalate.
Part 2 - Bonus Chapters:
BONUS CHAPTER 1
Conflict Scripts
Become aware of the automatic and unhelpful responses we've learned to use when we're in conflict.
What to do when you see other people responding with their automatic Conflict Scripts.
BONUS CHAPTER 2
Communication Traps
Discover the common ways of communicating that get in the way of connection, even when we're trying to help.
What to do when you see other people responding with their Communication Traps.
BONUS CHAPTER 3
Trauma Responses
Most of us have some level of trauma, so in conflict, there's a high chance one of you is responding from a trigger.
Become aware of each other's Trauma Responses.
What do to do when other people are responding from trauma.
WINNING CONFLICT: Can We Really Win?
Winning Conflict Is A Complete System To Empower Us To Eliminate Conflicts And Live Our Best Lives...
1.
Make Conflict Easy
Learn the Winning Conflict method from the book to change your relationship with conflict. When you know exactly what to do, and have had a little bit of practice, conflict is no longer a problem.
Come to the free weekly workshop to get some practice and to reprogram your view of conflict.
2.
Capture Insights
Use the free app to continually move forward.
It collects and organizes topics to discuss, agreements, appreciation to share, life vision, insights, to-do items, action plans, and more.
Use the optional AI Assistant to dictate to your watch or phone to speed up logging and organizing your thoughts.
3.
Prepare To Connect
The prep process gets us ready to have a healing and mutually beneficial conversation.
Get help from the community, group coaching program, or one of our team to be as prepared as possible for each conversation.
4.
Have Conversations
Use the invite process to increase the chances of them really wanting to participate. Then follow the conversation steps to deeply understand each other.
If they won't follow along, practice more first, and then use the same process with a few variations.
Practice/rehearse conversations with someone from the community or one of our team.
Get someone from our team to guide you through a connecting conversation, if needed.
5.
Make Action Plans
Use the "impossible to break" agreement process to create an action plan to get your needs met and to live your best life. When you follow the steps it eliminates broken agreements and nagging!
Get someone from our team to guide you to find a plan that works, if needed.
6.
Get Support As Needed
You can do this on your own and get help just when you need it.
Reach out in the community every time you're stuck, unsure, want feedback, or have questions.
Seek practice partners in the community to rehearse conversations, and to work on your triggers and responses, so you can respond intentionally instead of reacting.
Join the weekly free workshop where we go through the entire process.
Join the coaching group with multiple calls per week to get more help and to keep you on track long-term to having a fulfilling, conflict-free life.
Work with us as needed to get support prepping for conversations or to get a mediator to guide two of you through a difficult conversation, if you're unable to do it on your own.
7.
Get Certified
Inspired by what we're doing? Become certified through our not-for-profit, Harmonic Mediation Society and work with clients from Winning Conflict.
HMS will take care of all the marketing, sales, scheduling, follow-up, and more, so you can just do the work you enjoy, helping people connect and ending conflicts.
You'll Stop:
Reacting
Learn how to stop fights in their tracks and to reprogram your brain to react less and recover from reaction faster.
Arguing
End arguments about who is right or wrong, and find solutions together that work for everyone.
Avoiding
No more avoiding issues. No more escalating. No more talking about it over and over and over again.
You'll Start:
Defusing Conflicts
Be ready with intentional responses that help everyone come out of reaction, calm down, and actually talk.
Being Heard
Learn to share in ways others can easily hear, so they are less likely to react, and more likely to work with you.
Solving Issues
Confidently deal with every issue, heal from the pain of past actions, and resolve any conflict, once and for all.
Sign up for the online launch event:
Attend to get the app, e-book, audio book, and more... for free
This is a one-time event and offer. Date and time to be determined.
Join us and you will get:
Free digital book, audio book, and app:
Life-time access to the Wheel Of Life app, including the digital book, audio book, and digital log-books. This will include a free trial of all the AI features in the app, which are incredibly helpful. (I don't yet know how much that will cost me to offer, so I don't know how long I can offer that feature for free... Yet.)Free coaching group:
Together, we'll be testing and refining the format of the paid coaching group. Everyone who attends can join for free for six months. There will be multiple calls a week where we will identify all the conflicts we need to work on and follow the framework to address them at our own pace, work on our vision and action steps to make our lives and relationships as fulfilling as possible, and support each other as a community, as we work on our conversation prep, triggers, habitual responses, and other targeted life-improvement skills.
Discount on physical book and card deck:
As this initial group will only be spread by word-of-mouth, with no advertising costs, I can offer the physical products for much less.
2026 In-Person Workshops
Free, live workshops, online and across Canada.
Burnaby, B.C.
April 22 - May 28
Victoria, B.C.
April 30 - June 8
Montreal, Que.
June 10 - July 15
Weyburn, Sask.
July 22 - Aug. 26
Bay Roberts NFL
Sept. 2 - Oct. 7
Victoria, B.C.
Oct. 9 - Oct. 19
Quesnel, B.C.
Oct. 21 - Nov 25
Drummondsville, Que.
Nov. 2 - Jan. 20
Schedule a FREE workshop for your community, group, organization, etc.
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